from When Forgiveness Doesn’t Make Sense by Robert Jeffress

April 25, 2010 Categories: Uncategorized | 1 Comment  

If a perfect God finds it impossible to summarily dismiss sin against Him, why do we think we could ever overlook the serious hurts inflicted by others? Sin creates an obligation and someone has to pay. Whatever forgiveness is, it should not be confused with glossing over the seriousness of a wrong. ~p. 42-43

Frederick Beuchner has written:

“Of the Seven Deadly Sins, anger is possibly the most fun. To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past, to roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontations still to come, to savor to the last toothsome morsel both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back – in many ways it is a feast fit for a king. The chief drawback is that what you are wolfing down is yourself. The skeleton at the feast is you. ~p. 56-57

Forgiveness isn’t a one-time action of the heart, but a continual choice of the will. As someone said, “Forgiveness is surrendering the right to hurt you for hurting me.” ~p. 177

The Bible promises that “God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28). Unfortunately, some people – to echo [C.S.] Lewis – attach a trivial meaning to the word “good.” Those who translate that word as “happiness,” “prosperity,” or “freedom from adversity” are doomed to disappointment. Instead, Paul identifies the “good” that God’s plan is designed to accomplish in the next verse:

‘For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to become conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the first-born among many brethren.’ (8:29)

God has designed a unique plan for your life with one purpose in mind: to mold you into the likeness of His Son. ~p. 191-192

I realize you may well be struggling with the issue of forgiveness. Someone or something has caused great pain in your life. You want to forgive. You’re ready to be free from the bitterness that is destroying your life. You’ve spent hours reading about why and how to forgive. But if you release that person who has wronged you, you need something to grab hold of to maintain balance in life.

God is saying to you, “Release your bitterness and grab hold of Me. Allow Me to take responsibility for what has happened to you. Know that I have a plan I’m working out in your life, even if you can’t see it now. Faith means something when it is exercised in the darkness.” ~p. 195

All of the above quotes are from When Forgiveness Doesn’t Make Sense by Robert Jeffress

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